Hello Anon,
This is probably the hardest question I’ve ever received. Mainly because I’m single, not married and I haven’t encounter this situation. But if ever this happens to me, I will go ahead and try my best to answer this question . And for the benefit of all my followers in hopes that this might bring an encouragement to some of you.
If my future wife isn’t physically ‘pure’ anymore, would my feelings and views change? Of course not. If I truly embrace my identity in Christ, and If I claim to be a genuine follower of His, then I would understand what LOVE & FORGIVENESS is. Scriptures says,
But God shows his LOVE for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. - Romans 5:8
See, when we fully realize that we are a bunch of broken and sinful people and yet because of His unmeasurable love for us He chose to save us and still love us inspite of who we are. We learn to understand that God’s love wasn’t based on HOW GOOD & PERFECT WE ARE, His love was based on HOW GOOD HE REALLY IS. And because of that truth, that translates to every relationships in our lives.
Going back to my future wife, If God really handpicked her for me, if she’s really the ‘ONE’ for me, my LOVE for her isn’t based on who she was, it’s not based on her past, my love is based on who she is NOW in CHRIST.
I’d be lying if I say I don’t feel sad about her confession, Obviously I’d definitely feel a deep sense of sorrow because of the result of her past life and past sins. But at the same time, that doesn’t mean I’m better than her, I’m just like her a sinner with a broken past, and in constant need of God’s grace & forgiveness. I myself would have to confess that I’ve compromised my purity in some levels, so I’m definitely not perfect. But because of Christ, we are new creations and our identities are based on Him not on our past.
And I know for sure the enemy will use our past sins against us, but if we just remember to point ourselves back to God and to remember His amazing grace and His forgiveness that He displayed through His Son on the cross, and keep pressing on to Him and seek His ways, I’m sure we will have a fruitful marriage. :))
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. - 1 Corinthians 13:7
I hope this helps. :)
In Christ,
Mark M.
