Choosing the right ‘Significant Other’ is like buying a shirt.
Wait, what?! You’re probably like,
” What does he know about relationship? He’s only 20. He’s never been married. Why should I listen to this kid?! picking a significant other is more than just buying a shirt okay?! c’mon!”
Before you judge me, I have to say that you are right. I don’t know everything that’s ALL about relationship. I’ve been in a relationship before but not long enough to be considered as an expert and I will never be an expert. I’ve been single for about 5years now. But what I do have is my past experiences, godly friends who are married and Godly wisdom.
I’m writing this particular topic not to brag about my knowledge but to simply share and encourage. After all, my blog’s all about sharing encouragement.. so why not? =) So yeah, whether you’re in a relationship or not. If you’re not married, This is for YOU.
“Significant Other” is like buying the right shirt/dress. Is it really that simple? or maybe complicated? If you’re a gal, you know how hard it is for you ladies to pick a dress, you ladies are just too picky. (NO offense) For us guys, we aren’t too picky. I mean, we could be sometimes, but for the most part we aren’t. When we see a shirt or jeans and we think it’s cool & fits our budget we buy it right away. Here’s a cool analogy:
I go to the mall, go straight to my favorite clothing store. I get there, I see this nice looking shirt! It has this cool design, it’s the right color, fits my budget. Then I thought, ” MAN! This is perfect!” But wait, they don’t have my size. I’m small, and this is medium. NOW WHAT?! I have 2 options:
- I either buy this shirt, even though I know It’s not the right size, but it’s the right color, i like the design, and it fits my budget! I mean, This will do, this would work. it’s cheap anyways, I don’t mind spending OR…
- I’ll Wait for the next shipment of those shirts with SMALL sizes and then buy them. I’ll wait.. Either the next shipment is in 2 days, 1 week, or 3 weeks. i’ll wait, coz I know it’s my right size and it would definitely fit me. That way, I’m not just waisting my time and money.
Do you kinda see where I’m going here? A lot of us get into different relationships. We settle for the weakest, selfish & lamest reasons. When we meet someone who’s a christian, someone who goes to church, goes to bible study, and then he/she is hot, we are then easily pleased and then we give it a go. But then after awhile, it leaves us unsatisfied and unfulfilled because we went on our own ways.
Just like the illustration I gave earlier, choosing the right person to date and to marry is like picking the right shirt/dress. You can find the right color, design, and price, but it’s NOT THE RIGHT SIZE , like there’s somethings missing and yet we settle for the wrong size, just because we are so anxious to wear, and we think that’s gonna work, thinking we can fit into. Instead, we need to find the right color, right size, right design and meets our price. Why settle for someone with a “Generic trait” the typical “christian - church/bible study goer”? Look at their lives, are they the same inside and outside the church? Are they walking with God genuinely and passionately? Do you see their lives glimmer because of Christ?
Do you see them bearing much fruits? Is that person an Outstanding Man/Woman of God? Ask those questions. Why would you settle for less, If God can give you the Best? Don’t settle for the wrong size, because it’s really not gonna fit you no matter how much you try to work it out, wait for God’s chosen person, wait for that right size. So you don’t have to waste your time & effort.
SO WHAT IF YOU FOUND THE RIGHT SHIRT AND SIZE, NOW WHAT?
Ever had that experience where you bought a certain shirt/dress and it’s your favorite? you wear it all the time, and you take good care of it, because that’s you’re favorite. You’re confident and comfortable when you are wearing it. It means so much to you, it’s more than just another piece of clothing that covers your skin. Same thing with that person, when you meet and find that person, it’s different. That person means so much to you, and you just wanna take care of them and keep them FOREVER.
Bottom line is, Don’t rush into buying. Don’t rush into dating or pursuing someone. Patience is the Key to finding God’s best. He will reveal that person at the right time. Ultimately pursuing Him first is our main priority, (Matthew6:33) If we don’t know how to Love God genuinely and being content with Him, then how can we love the person that God brings into our lives genuinely, & passionately? We are His children, He knows our desires and He knows we all deserve the BEST.