Let's talk about DIVORCE. I know this Christian dude who cheated on his wife. They got divorced 2 yrs ago, and he repented, but his wife remarried. He's truly changed and Jesus has taken over his life. Now, he's in love and wants to get married. But some people says he can't get married cause he'd be committing adultery again, which makes him feel like he used up his shot at marriage, so to speak. What should he do?
Anonymous
Hello Anon,
I’ve never been married, nor divorce so I don’t know exactly what that looks like. But in Malachi
“I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith. - Mal 2:16
So in the very first place, God is not in favor of divorce.
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. - Matthew 19:6
but as we all know, people are sinful and we see it all the time. Wives and Husbands they commit sinful things, such as adultery. So back in the OT God laid down some laws and specifically about this issue where it’s okay to divorce (Deut24:1-4)
But in the NT Jesus fulfills another law
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
So, excpet for marital unfaithfulness is the only thing in Scripture that possibly gives God’s permission for divorce and remarriage.
I mean, there’s other passages in like 1corinthians etc.
I’m not so sure about this, since I’ve never experienced this, my best bet is for him to pray, and ask God’s guidance. He needs to ask questions like, if he’s ready to be committed again, and if he’s learned from his past marriage. At the end of the day, what matters is his heart and his intentions, and if it’s bringing glory to God. We can’t continuously live in condemnation and guilt, Jesus has set us free from that. We need to embrace Him, and His grace, and trust Him in all areas of our lives.
But yes, it’s not a SIN to remarry again.
If that person is ready to glorify God through that marriage then why not. I would question a person marrying again after 3 months of divorce. It doesn’t seem like it’s genuine and didn’t learn from it’s mistakes.
Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t mean that you’ve gone through years of being single after divorced gives you an excuse and ‘okay’ to get married, it all depends on the persons heart. That’s between that person and God.
If I was in his shoes,(that guy you mentioned earlier) I wouldn’t get married right away. I would use the time to grow more as a Man of God, Serve the Church, and really understand what it means to be a better follower of Christ and really understand His love, before he can pursue another relationship.
- Mark Muldez
